Do any among us not hate someone? Indeed, it is a rare find. Listen to our conversations and thoughts and we discover how easily we slip into accusations of judgment, negativism and hatred toward another or others. Indeed, hatred has been an essential element of most organized religions. Why is there so much hatred in our world? How can we rid ourselves of it and work toward a deeper love and appreciation for all?
I think of hatred as beginning within us, within our minds. We hate others for what they have done to us or to others. We feel unjustly treated and see others who have received similar or worse treatment. If we could find a way of letting go this anger and hatred, and discover a way toward forgiveness, perhaps we could find a deep and broader love in our hearts and minds.
Most of our lives we considered others to be the causes of our angers and hatreds. We could begin with parents and analyze all the ways they messed up our lives. We could discuss teachers or authority figures and how they hurt us, deprived us, abusing us mentally and physically. We could point to political figures who seem to be the easiest for us to hate. Historically, we hated monarchs so much they were overthrown and we established republics and democracies, which seem now to have given us even more choices of whom to hate.
In honesty, we hate because underneath, we hate God for sending us here into such a crazy world. We hate God for parents, for our “disfigured bodies,” our limited incomes, jobs, opportunities, illnesses, accidents, losses, and failures. Why else do we quickly tend to think or say “God damn” as our first expression of anger? How could God make such a crazy, violent place, full of wars, accidents, earthquakes, tsunamis, droughts and floods? Surely there are enough causes to give everyone a good reason to hate God and be angry. The list is endless.
So what or who is to blame? Where does the cause of hatred originate? It’s within us, within our own choices to come here in the first place. This world is our choice, our choice to come and take on bodies and forms rather than remain in Eternal Oneness. Heaven seemed too boring. God is One, God is Love, God is Spirit, but such Oneness and lack of individuality was too limited. So we dreamed of being our own little God, of having our own little world and universe set in time and space. This journey into time and space was our “attack on God. This world is what we got!
Scientists for centuries have angered “believers” for questioning their world views, from Copernicus to Einstein and the so-called quantum physicists of our age. Recently Discover Magazine had an article on the “Biocentric Universe,” writing of the inability of the universe to even exist without human consciousness. Interesting. (The Biocentric Universe Theory: Life Creates Time, Space, and the Cosmos Itself by Robert Lanza and Bob Berman, May 1, 2009) We now realize time itself to be relative and mathematically, proven to be an illusion.
So what if we then chose to come here, choosing our parents and places to live? What if we chose to leave our Creator and Oneness to come here and be “independent?” God would not then be the cause of the mess we have made, but ourselves. We could no longer blame God but accept our own responsibility for life as we have it in our awake, conscious moments. Parents, governments, and God could no longer be blamed; we would be forced to accept full responsibility.
Where then does anger come from, then? From but from our unwillingness to accept responsibility and guilt, thus blaming everyone else but ourselves for the mess we made. The anger comes from the deep guilt we carry for “offending God” by leaving Home and becoming our own little gods. How then could release and freedom be discovered again? How could we return Home.
Well, if God by definition is Eternal Spirit, and our True Self is one with this Spirit, then we actually never left home! We are just walking around here in a dream. In acknowledging our failures as “masters of our fates,” we learn to forgive ourselves for our choice to come as a mortal, imperfect body in a universe which hasn’t worked very well and never will. We admit we were arrogant and in forgiveness we begin to experience the release of anger, the acceptance of the imperfect reality around us, and the ability to live in constant forgiveness to and with others.
In times of remembrance and in the practice of being still, we can gain an experience of our going home. As ET in the classic movie, we remember to “phone home” to the Source. People who practice this remembrance begin to experience a similar calming and nudging peace.
Yes in forgiveness, we find the Eternal peace, and the hatred we projected so long on others begins to dissipate. Natives, politicians, neighbors, parents, family, teachers, abusers, other religions, and whomever we hated begin to transform themselves toward us as brothers and sisters. We begin living lives of random acts of compassion and kindness toward all. And if misunderstood or hated, we can learn to let it go.
Remember the words of Jesus as the story goes, dying on a cross but speaking forgiveness toward his accusers and executioners. I remember the story of the Dalia Lama disciple who in 1988 or 1989 escaped prison in Tibet and reaching India, stayed with the Dalai Lama. Once he was asked, “What was the hardest part of your imprisonment” and he replied, “Trying to never hate my guards!”
To create a more loving and kind world in our time of passage, learn who you truly are, a part of the Oneness of Creator God. And in time, the benefits of peace will far outweigh the apparent losses in fame, wealth, health, bodies and hurt. Blessings on those who seek to understand and follow.
Where does hatred come from? From within our minds, but just as sure, through change of minds and thinking, repentance, we begin the journey back Home. Let us choose to be on our way each day.
David i truly respect your views and faith. I agree hatred comes from within ourselves and forgiveness is the selfless path,but i have hatred or rather sadness in the acts of many. I deplore crimes against children whether it be physical or emotional. I wonder if you have children. I am also confused by you saying we chose to leave heaven that our existance consists of us merely trying to find our way back. I think we can choose to make an impact on something or someone other than ourselves. Best wishes
Christine, thanks for your comments. Yes, I do have 4 children and 8 grandchildren. My spiritual journey has taken many years and continues. Basically, I believe we are in essence One with God who exists as Spirit. Bodies, as all material matter, is short-lived and mortal. It comes and it goes. I tend to agree with those teachings which teach the reality of body and matter is not "real," but ephemeral. It’s in this basis that many come to the understanding that we left Heaven to enter the world of time and space as a defiance of God and as a result, end up disappointment, angry, guilty, angry, and with a sense of lostness. With a reawakening to our True Self, we can begin to let go and find our way back to peace without a sense of being victimized, either by our fate, friends, parents, enemies, etc. It takes some reflection, but in the end, one can discover a deep peace. I hope this helps.
David thankyou for taking the time to further enlighten me. Your children are quite fortunate to have you as their father and mentor. We are probably close in age but you remind of of my father,also a great thinker and avid golfer!
Pastor Dave! What a wonderful post! Thanks largely to you, I have seriously reexamined my thinking about other people this year. Whenever I react negatively to someone, I try to take a step back and reflect on what about ME may be causing the reaction. This exercise has been so helpful for staying positive, for getting closer to loving my enemies, for feeling the oneness with those around me, for appreciating everyone in my life as my hand-picked teachers (especially the tough-to-like people), and for growing personally. If I can’t love someone, it really has nothing to do with the someone – it’s really something that I find unlovable about me that’s the problem. When my kids’ behavior has me at wits’ end, the root of my anger is my own lack of patience, my guilt over perceived deficiencies in my ability to parent, and (very frequently) my own annoying behaviors reflected back at me by them. I know that the annoyance I feel with my boss is a reflection of my own exaggerated view of the importance of money and professional performance. Why do I believe that my value has anything to do with how hard and well I work? This is an ongoing battle. The root of these roots, of course, is the disconnect with God that I just can’t seem to undo. If I had perfect faith in God, certainly none of this would bother me. How could it? The good news is that I am finding that the more negative reactions I can stomp out with truth in self-discovery, the less things bother me. Even when I can’t quite put my finger on what’s causing my lack of enthusiasm for someone, I am more apt to give them the benefit of the doubt, to offer a positive response, and to avoid judgments about them. There are plenty of reasons to love everyone. How interesting it is when I choose to focus on one or two reasons NOT to love them. These are valuable speed bumps to discover, so I’ve stopped avoidig and I’ve started paying a lot closer attention to those people that make me crazy! It’s really been eye-opening!